Real Romance Is … (February 2015)

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Concept by Tatiana Caldwell
Artwork by The Digital Hook

Inspired by Love Is Comics

 See more Real Romance comic strips at http://tatianacaldwell.com/category/real-romance/

Real Romance Is … (March 2014)

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Concept by Tatiana Caldwell
Artwork by The Digital Hook

Inspired by Love Is Comics

 See more Real Romance comic strips at http://tatianacaldwell.com/category/real-romance

Check back every month for a new comic!

Real Romance Is … (February 2014)

Real Romance is ... Helping her all DAY long, so she can go all NIGHT long.

Concept by Tatiana Caldwell
Artwork by The Digital Hook

Inspired by Love Is Comics

 See more Real Romance comic strips at http://tatianacaldwell.com/category/real-romance/

Real Romance Is … (January 2014)

Real Romance is ... Defined by love, NOT gender roles.

Concept by Tatiana Caldwell
Artwork by The Digital Hook

Inspired by Love Is Comics

 See more Real Romance comic strips at http://tatianacaldwell.com/category/real-romance/

Real Romance Is … (December 2013)

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Concept by Tatiana Caldwell
Artwork by The Digital Hook

Inspired by Love Is Comics

 See more Real Romance comic strips at http://tatianacaldwell.com/category/real-romance/

Happy Valentine’s Day and a Poem


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Valentine’s Day is one of those holidays that I swear every year that I won’t make a big deal about because I believe in telling those you care about that you love them everyday …. yet each year I get caught up in the moment.

What can I say? There’s love in the air, and I love that.

I’d like to repost a poem I wrote five years ago (dedicated to my husband) for fresh viewing in the spirit of love (and just in case he’s forgotten):

You Are The Reason Why I Feel Loved. You Are The One.

 

You are –
The reason I laugh
The reason I cry
When facing tough paths
You’re the reason I try

You are the reason.

You are –

Why I feel I can make it
Why I feel I can do it
Why I feel I can take it
Like there’s nothing to it

You are why I feel.

You are –

Loved when you’re sleeping
Loved when we’re walking
You are loved when I’m angry
And silent – so keep talking

You are loved.

You are –

The one moon of my night
The one half of my soul
The one thing in my life
That can make me feel whole

You are the one.

Happy Valentine’s Day! <3

13 Life Lessons – 2011 Brithday Edition

Two days ago, I  just celebrated my birthday.  Another year lived.  Another year of lessons learned.  As part of my annual birthday blogging ritual, I’d like to take a moment to share a few of the ones I’ve learned this year (go here to see my previous ones):

  1. Do have a plan.
  2. Do have a backup plan in case the first plan fails.
  3. Don’t overplan. Be careful – it is possible to do so much planning, that you don’t leave any time for actual doing.
  4. Avoiding and ignoring are not the same thing. Avoiding is the prevention of something from happening. Ignoring is pretending that what already happened, didn’t.
  5. Avoid unnecessary drama and your life will be much less stressful.
  6. But not all drama is unnecessary … there are some things worth fighting over, worth getting upset and loud about, worth defending. Learn to tell the difference between what’s petty and what’s hefty.
  7. Sometimes, it’s not what you do that’s the problem. It’s who you’re doing it for and with, and why.
  8. The way you present or position something will drastically affect how it is perceived. Little girls dancing with a horizontal pole? It’s called Ballet and is widely praised. Little girls dancing with a vertical pole? It’s called Obscene and widely detested.
  9. There are some absolutely brilliant, amazing women in this world. Don’t underestimate the female persuasion.
  10. Rebooting fixes way more than just computers.
  11. It’s easy to be your own worst enemy. Stop fighting with yourself and become your biggest champion, your most generous supporter.
  12. Doesn’t matter what you look like – you will find it hard to see the pretty on the outside if you feel shitty on the inside.
  13. The better you understand something, the greater your potential to love it. This goes for works of art, skills, spouses, children, and yourself.

What are some of the lessons you learned this year?

13 Ways Marriage Gets Better With Time

Today is our 10th anniversary. We were a couple for about 6 years before we officially tied the knot, which puts us at 16 years of loving each other, but it very much feels as though we’ve been married for freaking ever. The good news is, at least for us, marriage continues to become easier the longer we are together. Here’s 13 ways it’s gotten better:

  1. Eventually, I learned to stop noticing the dirty towels and underwear he leaves on the floor.
  2. We’ve learned what each other’s strengths and weaknesses are, and work with it instead of against it. He can’t remember to balance the checkbook to save his life? Fine – we’ll make that my job. I can’t tell a weed from a flower? Fine – he’s got the gardening.
  3. What’s on our minds gets said immediately and gets dealt with, instead of letting it linger to harbor resentment and misunderstanding.
  4. Since I know he’s pretty much trapped now and can’t escape me, I have no qualms about sharing my kinkiest, dirtiest, naughtiest, most-taboo-iest fantasies with him and asking him to help me fulfill them. Yeah, even that fantasy.
  5. Having children who are walking, talking extensions of the two of us, has brought us even closer together.
  6. I don’t bother to ask him if an outfit makes my ass look bigger anymore. Either way, he’s still gonna slap it.
  7. My family is his family and his friends are my friends and vice versa. A lot of conflict is avoided because of this.
  8. Pooting in front of, or on him, is now something I laugh at instead of trying hard not to do.
  9. The line between “his” and “hers” has diminished to the point that it barley exists. There’s just “ours”. Unfortunately, this means I now have to buy pink socks if I don’t want him stealing them and stretching them way out of shape.
  10. We’re pretty secure in our relationship these days because we now know for a fact that we’re both absolutely crazy, and that no one but us would put up with us for long.
  11. After a while, we start developing the same tastes and habits. Which makes choosing what to eat for dinner, what to watch on TV and what color to paint the bathroom much easier than it used to be.
  12. It’s been so long that we’ve been going without some of the rights that marriage has deemed irrelevant, that we no longer even miss them. You know, like the right to come and go as you please, the right to say no, the right to remain silent.
  13. You get to make blog posts with both sweet and comedic commentary about your relationship instead of having to buy a sappy card for your anniversary ….

If you’re reading this babe, Happy Anniversary. I love you.

13 Rules of Marriage

It’s no secret I enjoy reading, writing, and talking about love, marriage and relationships. I recently read a very interesting book by Terrence Real titled The New Rules of Marriage for making love work in the 21st century. For today’s topic, I picked 13 of the many “relationship rules” described in this book to share with you for your thoughts:

  1. Intimacy occurs when 2 or more mature individuals choose to share themselves with one another.
  2. One of the great paradoxes of intimacy is that in order to have a healthy, passionate relationship, you must be willing to risk it.
  3. Objective Reality has no place in close personal relationships.
  4. A good relationship is not one in which the raw parts of ourselves are avoided. A good relationship is one in which they are handled. And a great relationship is one in which they are healed.
  5. The difference between acceptance and withdrawal is resentment.
  6. Couples don’t have problems; they are problems.
  7. You think that your relationship will improve once particular stressful issues, like money, parenting, or sex, “Get Resolved.” But it’s actually the other way around. You’ll be able to successfully tackle tough issues only after your relationship improves.
  8. Few things diminish one partner’s desire for sex more effectively than the other partner’s demand for it.
  9. You have no right to complain about not getting what you never asked for.
  10. Great relationships mean more assertion up front and less resentment on the back end.
  11. The essential dynamic of all relationships is a dance of harmony, disharmony, and repair.
  12. Listening equals understanding.
  13. Understanding builds empathy, empathy builds compassion, and compassion ends combat.

What do you think?

13 Things That Turn Me On / Off

Here’s a list 13 things that turn me on, as well as 13 things that turn me off. (As I wrote this list I found it interesting to note how fine the line can be between some of the things that attract me and those that repell …)

  1. Intelligence / A Know-It-All
  2. Relates to me / Related to me
  3. Confidence / Arrogance
  4. Open-minded / Non-committal
  5. Adventurous / Promiscuous
  6. Naughty / Criminal
  7. Hypotheses / Hypocrisy
  8. Honesty / Crudeness
  9. Intimacy / Secrecy
  10. Analytical / Anal
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  12. Protectiveness / Un-trusting
  13. Upholding Integrity / Being Judgmental