As you know, I just celebrated a birthday last week. Another year lived. Another year of lessons learned. I’d like to take a moment to share a few (go here to see the ones I shared previously):- Before you can be true to anyone else, you have to be true to yourself.
- The older you get, the harder it is to break bad habits.
- You’d be surprised by what you can get if you only just ask.
- The term “Common Sense” is really quite a misnomer. It isn’t all that common, nor is it a sense.
- Times have changed. If you think you can make it JUST by relying on an employer for financial security, you may be putting yourself and your family at risk.
- The ones you fight with the hardest tend to be the ones you love the most.
- Doesn’t matter how well they get along or like each other. If a pair of partners aren’t both working towards the same shared, clearly understood goal, the partnership is headed for big trouble. Be the partnership a marriage, business partnership or project team.
- Sometimes you have to be the “bad guy” in order to save the day.
- I am not the exact same person today I was 20 years ago, or 10 years ago, or even a year ago. And I’m happy about that – I’m changing because I’m growing, maturing, evolving.
- I’m beginning to bet that more relationships fail because one person didn’t change, more-so than because they did.
- Parents don’t always know what’s best.
- There’s no point in complaining about it if you’re not going to do anything help make it change.
- If you insist on trying to take large, rapid steps there, you’ll likely wear yourself out before you even come close. But take it one focused, determined, small step at a time and chances are high you will eventually get there.
What are some of the lessons you learned this year?
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Wow! Awesome and thought provoking list.
1) That eating healthy is easier and tastier than I thought.
2) That my mother (RIP) was even more awesome than I thought.
3) That it is good to make new friends.
4) My patience is not infinite.
5) It is ok to take some time to pamper myself. I am still working on the feeling guilty part though.
6) It is always hardest to tell people you love and care about "No"
7) That sometimes I am too hard on my friends.
I learned that this year, too! I hated to do it and the friend is still mad but I know it was for the best. She is already getting over it.
9) Sometimes I think too much and need to just do it when I start over thinking.
10) That my journey through this life though at times has been very difficult it has also been amazing.
11) I still have a hard time asking for help. Working on that.
12) That when people tell me know it doesn't hurt like it use to and it is ok. They rejected my idea not me.
13) Despite everything wrong with the USA, I still wouldn't want to be a citizen of any other country on the planet right now.
Great list, CC!! I agree with so many of those, especially agree with your #4, #5, #9 and #11
I've learned that there are some people who will just never accept me for who I am. I'm still trying to learn to be okay with that.
These are great lessons that can be difficult to learn. Thank you for sharing!
Great list and very right!
*hugs*
Paige
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Thanks Paige
Argh! I had a whole counter list and I made one wrong move on this pad and it erased!
I just learned an important life lesson: I can't multi-task on a Mac!
Waaaaah!
Aw, too bad your original list got lost.
Awesome list. I just printed it out as a reminder for over my desk!
Happy TT!!
Wow, really? I'm honored!
Great list, Tatiana! Except now I have Ziggy Marley singing "True to Myself" in my head. *G*
Thanks for visiting my garden!
Heh, didn't mean to get the song stuck in your head, Heather! But thanks for stopping by (and I had a great time in your garden
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great lessons.
I learned that sometimes you just aren't in control and you just have to make the best of the hand you're dealt.
This is true.
I totally agree with #5, but I'd also add, that relying on your employer's 401K plan to do the job isn't really all that helpful either. Have your own plans outside of that as well.
That's a good one. Retirement is something we really need to plan for early, less and less companies are providing/keeping pensions, the 401k values could plummet at any time, and who knows what's going to happen with social security. You've really got to have some additional savings of your own, or at least some clever planning.
I had to laugh about the common sense one. Hubby and I always mutter about that.
I've learned to be myself, and if someone can't deal with that–too bad! I'm not here to please everyone.
Amen to the being yourself, and too bad for those who can't deal with it. That's a lesson I'm still grappling with a bit, to be honest. Good one!
Love the list. I can relate to a lot of those. I must say the biggest lesson this year is I'm learning how to feel…I mean I know how to feel but I usually keep it to myself. I don't like to laugh too much, yell too much and especially don't like to cry. I guess I'm finally allowing others into my little world, even if it can pretty unspectacular…
Wow, what a big lesson to be learning, and I believe I understand where you're coming from. Your world is spectacular – it's spectacularly yours!
Thanks for sharing, Suga.
1) I'm still in the process of learning that the seemingly impossible might actually be possible.
2) I've re-learnt (as I do on a fairly frequent basis) that my friends are really quite fantastic.
3) The decisions I've taken that have and still induce a little guilt, are actually be very understandable.
4) I've learned to really look around me and positively appreciate the urban environment in which I reside.
5) I'm learning to exploit my liking for finding visual beauty and fascination in the mundane and ugly that's all around me. In short, I've become a photo-whore.
6) Every year there's more music, either discovered old stuff, or new things, to introduce to new people. I love doing that.
7) Not exactly a life-lesson. But my home-baked bread is better than any of the supermarket ones (well, maybe except for the rye bread). I re-learned how to do that this year, after over 20 years away from baking bread.
I'm learning, I think, that this is Thatcher 2.0 in the UK. And I don't like it one little bit. I find myself angry or sad about that most days recently.
9) Every year I realise it a little more, but I love London almost like it's a country. I'm a London patriot.
10) Again, a re-learn – I love, L.O.V.E. communicating my adoration for music of (pretty much) all types, from all places, from whatever era I get to hear, to people who are prepared to open their ears a bit.
11) I'm good at photos – creating, as well as spotting abstraction is, I think, a forte – but I need a better camera.
12) Non-UK and non-US funk is where it's at!
13) Nope. Can't think of a #13……..
13) I've learned that I sometimes click "Submit" before I've properly proof-read……
*laughs*
Great list, especially #13! It's easier to make that mistake than you'd think, isn't it?
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