13 Ways to Keep Love Growing

by ** Tatiana Caldwell ** on April.1.2010

A couple recently asked my husband and I if we could share any tips on keeping our relationship fresh and growing. Here’s the answer!

  1. Keep talking. Communicate about everything. Your feelings, movies, your dreams, your hobbies, your fears, your day, your past. Stay updated and keep learning something new about each other.
  2. Find common interests. As the years go by, you may find that your tastes and interests grow dissimilar. Discover things that you both can enjoy, be it a TV show, a book, a video game, a dance class.
  3. Try to change together. For instance, does one of you want to eat better and drop some weight? Make it a goal for you both to adapt healthier habits.
  4. Be creatively naughty together. Who better to share – and perhaps try out – all of your wildest fantasies with than your other half? Share fantasies with each other. Watch them, discuss them, try them.
  5. Visit someplace new together. See something new together. See each other in a different setting.
  6. Never stop wooing. Each other, I mean! Keep going on dates. Come home with flowers, candy. Have candlelight dinners even when it’s not Valentine’s Day or your Anniversary.
  7. Do projects together. Be it growing a garden or starting a side business.
  8. Say what’s on your mind. Even if it is very profound. Even it is shockingly naughty.
  9. Be spontaneous. Every once in a while, wear something surprising to bed, or show up at their office to take them out for lunch.
  10. Take time off to just be with each other. Life seems to always be yelling “go-go-go!” Try to make some time for you two to do nothing but just be together.
  11. Make each other laugh. It’s hard not to love someone who keeps a smile on your face.
  12. Keep yourself fresh and growing. Take care of yourself. Learn something new, change up your hair, buy a new style of clothing. If you remain interesting and evolving then not only might your spouse notice and appreciate it, they may be motivated to do the same.
  13. Be best friends. You never get bored with your best buddy, right? Work to ensure that your spouse is your very best friend, and your relationship will never grow dull.
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{ 24 comments… read them below or add one }

Karrie Berray April 1, 2010 at 11:51 am

awww Wanna. what an awesome list.

*taking notes*

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ambz April 1, 2010 at 12:47 pm

Great post!

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** Tatiana Caldwell ** April 2, 2010 at 7:48 am

Thank ya Ambz! *smooches*

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Elise Logan April 1, 2010 at 12:50 pm

Great list and good pointers.

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CCDreamz April 1, 2010 at 1:26 pm

#14 It always helps that they know about the $1million insurance policy you have on them. And that you have family members who know how to make it look like an accident.

Just kidding!!!! Great post. I got a family member or two that could benefit from this post. Thanks!

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** Tatiana Caldwell ** April 2, 2010 at 7:48 am

*giggles* I have told you lately how much I luv ya, CC?

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Paige Tyler April 1, 2010 at 1:38 pm

Those are all so great! I totally agree with you on all of them!

*hugs*
Paige

My TT is at http://paigetylertheauthor.blogspot.com

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Stephanie Adkins April 1, 2010 at 1:41 pm

This is such a great post. Your relationship sounds alot like mine and my husband’s, and I couldn’t agree with you more. :) Happy Thursday!

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** Tatiana Caldwell ** April 2, 2010 at 7:47 am

Thanks, Stephanie!

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Jennifer Leeland April 1, 2010 at 1:47 pm

Yes. On all of these. Also, I would add “Don’t expect ten years to look like your first date.”
I think too many couples think that “love” is that rush you get when you first get together and sex is awesome and frequent etc. To me, love is that time you stick together, facing adversity and STILL want to talk to one another.
I think divorce happens when expectations and resentments are allowed to breed unchecked.

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** Tatiana Caldwell ** April 2, 2010 at 7:47 am

This is good advice. Love is definitely about how far you’ve come together, as one.

We may not swoon over each other the same way we did when we first met – that can never be duplicated – but we definitely still give each other tummy butterflies 15 years later.

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Janice Seagraves April 1, 2010 at 3:16 pm

Great list. Hubby and I still date, and we’re been married for 30 years.

Happy April Fool day, and happy TT.

Janice~

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** Tatiana Caldwell ** April 2, 2010 at 7:42 am

I hope that I can one day say the same.

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Sherri April 1, 2010 at 6:04 pm

Love it. Every word.

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** Tatiana Caldwell ** April 2, 2010 at 7:42 am

*steals a smooch*

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Sasha Devlin April 1, 2010 at 6:05 pm

This list gave me warm and fuzzies. Awesome

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** Tatiana Caldwell ** April 2, 2010 at 7:43 am

Thanks!

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Alice Audrey April 1, 2010 at 7:28 pm

Great advice. Most of this list has worked well for my dh and I, who will be hitting 25 years together in a few months.

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** Tatiana Caldwell ** April 2, 2010 at 7:41 am

That’s wonderful. Congratulations on 25 years!

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Adelle Laudan April 1, 2010 at 9:07 pm

Great tips. Unfortunately I’m still healing my heart.

Happy Keester this weekend.

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** Tatiana Caldwell ** April 2, 2010 at 7:41 am

The wounds will close. *hugs*

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BethLanai April 1, 2010 at 9:25 pm

love it!

one of these days I’m going to experience this

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** Tatiana Caldwell ** April 2, 2010 at 7:39 am

Yes ma’am, you certainly will.

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Darla April 8, 2010 at 11:13 am

Well, we got the laughter and best friends part down. The rest need work. Thanks for sharing!

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