March 2009

Hot Stuff: The Host

by ** Tatiana Caldwell ** on March.31.2009

Okay, so maybe I’m one of the few lovers of paranormal romance on the planet who has yet to either read or see Twilight.  I’ll get to it eventually – I have a reading list three miles long.

 

The Host

But I did feel compelled to read Stephenie Meyer’s seemingly less talked about novel, The Host.  I’m also a science fiction lover, and it had been a long time since I’ve actually read one, so I picked this one up hoping it would satisfy my hunger for a taste of alien possibilities.

 

And it did!

I loved this book. Stephenie Meyer’s knack is invoking emotions.  There were parts in this book that made me angry, sad, nervous, ponderous and awed. Even though it felt far more literary than science fiction – there was only a teeny bit of action or science – the character development, tension and light but endearing romance made this book hard for me to put down.

If this is the kind of impact Meyer’s delivers consistently, I guess I’m going to have to bump Twilight up on my list! 

I was surprised by the kind of questions this book made me ponder. Who am I, exactly?  Am I my face, this body?  My personality?  Who I was and what I did in my past, or rather what I’ve learned and what I plan to be in the future? What exactly is the human soul, and where is it?

Although this book was pretty much rated PG (with the  exception of a violent scene or two that I personally could have done without but understood the artistic expression), the fact that it left me thinking long past The End is what makes it hot.  It turned my mind on..

HOT RATING: 4 out of 5 flames

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Should Women Be Like Men?

by ** Tatiana Caldwell ** on March.30.2009

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There’s something that’s been nagging at the back of my brain with increasing persistence lately.  I’ve been reluctant to blog about it in fear of being misunderstood, but I think I’m finally ready and able to articulate my feelings on the subject.

The subject?  The equality of men and women.  More and more I’m hearing women say that they should be held to the exact same morals and standards as men – no more and no less. ” Men get to sleep around without being called sluts, why can’t women?”  ”Men work all day, leaving the care of their children to other people, why can’t women do the same without being looked down upon?”  Etc. etc.  

Now, I’m all about  the equality of the sexes.  I’m all for equality, period.  And I’m certainly not saying that I disagree with the general point these women are trying to make.  But I can’t help but wonder if somehow, somewhere, people got the word “equal” confused with “identical”.  When two things are equal, they are of the same value/worth.  But they are not necessarily exactly the same.   For example, (5+5) and (12 – 2) both equal 10, but they arrived at the same value in different ways, with different numbers. 

Why can’t child-rearing be just as valuable as earning money?  Why can’t being choosey about whom one sleeps with be of equal value to (at the very least) promiscuity?  Why are so many young women determined to eschew traditional female values that were traditionally considered feminine in favor of more “masculine” behaviors and attitudes?

A woman doesn’t have to act just like a man does in order to be valued as much as one.  That’s not to knock women with more so-called “masculine” traits.  I just want to point out that being equal does not require one to inherit the exact same traits and characterstics of another.  

What’s so bad about men and women being different?

I believe that men and women are supposed to be different.  I believe that we were meant complement each other by bringing our different strengths, values and reasoning to the together to create a whole, accurate perspective on everything in life.  If men and women were exactly the same, would we still really need each other?  And why exactly would a woman want to be just like a man, anyways?  If all women acted like men, WHO would be left to be the voices of reason?  (heh heh, I love you boys ;-)

I would love to hear your opinions on this subject.   Do you think there should be no differences between the sexes mentally and emotionally?  Should women behave just like men?

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How To Get A Job In Time of Crisis

by ** Tatiana Caldwell ** on March.19.2009

This video made me giggle:

Think there is some way I can employ a similar strategy with publishing editors?  Hmmm … ** rubs chin deviously **

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What a Mean March!

by ** Tatiana Caldwell ** on March.18.2009

Argggh, I’m having a rough month here!  This has been one of those months where I feel as though I’m not doing anything right.   Everything I’ve written on my novella feels stale and forced.  I’m temporarily stuck on a couple of  issues with my Beauty of series.  And my job has me feeling more drained than a starving vampire’s latest victim.  

I’m going to have to plan a getaway soon before I turn into the undead.

WANTED:  A vacation.  Really Bad.

But anyways, I do have at least one piece of positivity to share about this month.  My bestest writing buddy S.K. Yule was just recently offered a publishing contract for her first paranormal romance novel, DARKEST HOURS.  Whoo hooo for Sky! You’re an inspiration for me, as well as a great friend! Congratulations!

With that, I’m going to stop moping, get dinner in the oven since my boys are starving to death (or so they claim) and try to write something that actually feels alive.  

Later!

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Top 10 Women’s Fantasies – Part 3

by ** Tatiana Caldwell ** on March.10.2009

At last!  Here’s #’s 3, 2 and 1  of the Top 10 Women’s Fantasies discussion, based on this article .  ( Click here if you want to see all three parts. ) 

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3.  ** Two can chew **

QUOTE: Most men enjoy being spoiled by two women who fawn over them simultaneously. In the same instance, women also fantasize about having two men all over their bodies. Some wanted a more gentle erotic scene, while the rare few wanted porno-like sex.

This is definitely one of my biggest fantasies.   Some of the best things in life come in pairs.  Shoes, gloves, hands, lips, parents.  Too bad husbands don’t.  Maybe the garage would finally get cleaned out if they did.  ** rubs chin **

HOTNESS FACTOR:  10/10   

LIKELIHOOD OF MAKING IT HAPPEN:  Don’t I wish!

 

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2. ** Strap me on, I’m going in **

QUOTE: By far, one of the most popular fantasies women have is being the man for one night… literally. They would like to act and dress up like a man, and I mean straight down to the penis. That’s right, I’m referring to a strap-on penis.  One woman actually had the opportunity to fulfill her fantasy and took full advantage of her boyfriend’s willingness. “It was absolutely incredible to be able to penetrate a man and feel the empowerment usually associated with being the aggressor.”

Every once in a while I try to imagine what it feels to be a man, especially when I’m working on a love scene that’s from the male’s perspective.  But I find it much more enticing being the dominant one from time to time while still being the lady.   

HOTNESS FACTOR:  5/10

LIKELIHOOD OF MAKING IT HAPPEN:  I wouldn’t actively try to pursue this fantasy.  However if he was the one interested in trying out a little role reversal … 

 

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1. ** Ooh, my virgin ears **

QUOTE: Although saying “rape fantasy” sounds somewhat unthinkable, that’s exactly what most women call it. They want to play the innocent, naïve, unknowing little girl who gets taken advantage of by the devious, predator-like man. Forcibly pushing her against the wall and “pinning my arms above my head with one hand while the other hand has made its way under my skirt” received nods of approval by all the women in the room. 

I totally understand why this fantasy is number 1.  It could quite possibly be the biggest fantasy of mine simply because it is the only one that can not be truly realized.  I won’t ever be naive and innocent again, and real-life rape is deplorable.  But as a fantasy?  Hot.  HOT!

HOTNESS FACTOR:  9/10

LIKELIHOOD OF MAKING IT HAPPEN: Let me just say that naughty roleplaying can help keep the passion in a marriage alive and strong.  Trust me!  ** winks **

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Top 10 Women’s Fantasies – Part 2

by ** Tatiana Caldwell ** on March.9.2009

At long last, here’s the continuation of my thoughts on#’s 6 through 4 of the top 10 naughty fantasies of women (based on the article Top 10 Women’s Sexual Fantasies) .   Click here to see the first part if you missed it.  

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6. ** Sexually ravaged **

QUOTE: Although most women agreed that they fantasize about having a master, their role in the scenario differed. Whereas some women said that they would surrender to their master’s demands, others opposed the idea and said that they would resist and disobey his commands.

“Having him instruct me on how to lick and suck his member or at what pace to ride him will make me orgasm faster than I can say Yes, Master.” On the other hand, [...] “It depends. In some fantasies I obey, yet in others I fight him and refuse to do anything he says until he finally ties me to the bed and calms me with his rhythmic penetration.”

Whew, is it hot in here, or is it just me???

I have never, ever had such a naughty fantasy.  Except for every single day.

HOTNESS FACTOR:  10/10

LIKELIHOOD OF MAKING IT HAPPEN:  Who says I didn’t already?

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5. ** I taw, I taw a putty tat **

QUOTE: Virtually every woman wants or will share her body with another woman. Are you jealous because you get left out? Don’t be, most of these women want their man to watch them while they work… or play, as the case may be.

Virtually every woman does?  Really?  ** raises eyebrows at those stats **  

HOTNESS FACTOR:  6/10

LIKELIHOOD OF MAKING IT HAPPEN:  *grins* I’m going to plead the fifth on this one.

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4.  ** Leave a good tip **

QUOTE: Keeping in mind that the women interviewed are professionals with commendable careers, some of them fantasized about being strippers, while others took things a step further and imagined being prostitutes. Obviously, the fantasy is romanticized beyond belief because the life of either is not so glamorous that women would opt to have it as a career choice.

 ”[...] The gentleman would pick me up in his expensive car and I would ride him in the driver’s seat in some dingy back alley. He would pay me my fee and I’d be on my way.”

Okay, I’ll admit that I used to share this fantasy.  But the older I get the less this sounds like fun to me and more like a dead-end job.  So the fantasy has lost quite a bit of its sizzle.

HOTNESS FACTOR:  4/10

LIKELIHOOD OF MAKING IT HAPPEN:  1/10 (Hey, in this economy anything’s possible … Just kidding!  Mostly.)

 

 

 

 

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I’ll return soon with the last part of the discussion.  Ta-ta for now!


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Hot Stuff: Fringe

by ** Tatiana Caldwell ** on March.3.2009

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The show Fringe (Tuesdays at 9/8c on Fox) makes me hot.

Like, burning, melting, quivering hot.

And it isn’t even a “sexy” show.  It is a sci-fi show.  Part X-files, part CSI, part 24.  But it is all hot.  It has unique dilemmas that get my creative juices flowing, complex and exciting psuedo-scientific concepts that fire up my synapses, a lot of action and secrets and espionage and two sexy main characters that are brainy beauties.

What’s the fastest way to get to this geek girl’s heart?  Through my mind.  If you can turn on my brain then my body is sure to follow.  It is why I like to read romances and erotica, it is why I love science fiction and fantasy, it is why I love crime mysteries.  And it is why I love this show.

HOT RATING: 4.5 out of 5 flames

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NOTE: Apparently Fringe is on hiatus right now for 7 weeks.   **tries not to cry**    It will continue on Tuesday, April 7.  

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