August 2008

Life Lessons

by ** Tatiana Caldwell ** on August.20.2008

I recently celebrated my birthday.  Another year lived.  Another year of lessons learned.  I’d like to take a moment to share a few:

ON LIFE

  • The easiest way to break a bad habit is to replace it with a new, good one
  • Those that don’t believe in karma are usually hit the hardest by it
  • You’d be amazed by how many people’s days you could brighten if you would just smile … even your own crappy ones

ON LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS

  • With true love, the affection and attraction increases – instead of diminishing - over time.  I fall more in love my fat-head husband each day
  • There is no such thing as hiding anything from a significant other.  Eventually it WILL be brought to light
  • A lot of people out there are really struggling to find and hold onto love

ON FAMILY

  • People often treat strangers better than than they do their own family
  • Children are living reflections of their parents.  Watch what you do in the mirror …
  • Children really do help keep you young.  Our kids have us running, hopping, jumping, bike riding, dancing, singing, skating, skipping, swimming, spinning, sliding, learning (I just learned that sooo many fun things to do start with the letter ‘s’!), teaching, visiting amusement parks … and constantly smiling and laughing

ON WRITING

  • I love writing even when it earns me $0
  • There’s no such thing as not having enough time to write.  Write a page, write a paragraph, write a sentence.  As long as you write something everyday, you are making progress.

ON MYSELF

  • I used to think that being an independent woman meant that I shouldn’t depend on anyone but myself.  Now I believe that being an independent woman means that I can make it on my own if I have to … as a lady in love, I don’t have the need nor the want to
  • Every year I look back on the previous one and say “Boy was that DUMB of me!” about at least 1 thing
  • I really hate hate

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Boys and Books

by ** Tatiana Caldwell ** on August.8.2008

I had a discussion with a male associate yesterday that I can’t get off my mind.  He said:

“I only read non-fiction.  Fiction is better in movies and fictional books are a waste of time.”

He isn’t the first man to tell me this, either.  Me being a writer, I had no choice but to express my disagreement with him.  I told him that they are two different mediums and that although I love a good movie myself, there is something about the way a book mentally stimulates you and moves you creatively that a movie can never replicate.

His response was pretty much, “Eh.”

As I was trying to come up with some good books to suggest to him, he surprised me by informing me that he did find my short story Being Sincere rather intriguing. Being the extra macho type that he is, I never would have pegged him for one interested in fantasy or romance.  But when I thought about it further, it made sense.  I could see how this guy could relate to the powerful but stoic male main character in the story.  I told him that if he liked that, he just may really enjoy more of my stories or novels. 

Which then got me to thinking – why DON’T more men (straight men, anyways) read romance, especially those that fall under the paranoraml fantasy and sci-fi subgenres?  They’ve got action, tension, danger, bad guys, cool alpha males, gorgeous babes and hot sex. 

What’s there not for a guy to like in tales like that?

Perhaps men are just generally more visual creatures than women and have more difficulity getting excited over text. Or maybe it is simply the outdated assumption by guys that all romances are sweet and frilly and are for girls only.  Or maybe I’m just wrong altogether, and most guys WOULD pick up more romances if only there weren’t half naked men on the book covers.  I really want to know!

Either way, I usually have male readers in the back of my mind when I write and try to include content and perspectives that I imagine they would enjoy, even though I know that in general I am creating stories for a female audience.  But still, I can’t help but hope that I can be one of those authors that both men and women don’t mind getting hot and bothered over.  If anybody can help provide me with some further insight on this topic I’d love to hear it!

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